It’s common knowledge that a 12- or 13-year-old suddenly awakens to a brand-new world around him, as though his eyes were opening for the first time. That world is populated by age-mates who scare him out of his wits.

A teen's greatest anxiety is the possibility of rejection or humiliation in the eyes of his peers.

His greatest anxiety, far exceeding the fear of death, is the possibility of rejection or humiliation in the eyes of his peers. This ultimate danger lurks in the background for years, motivating him to do things that make absolutely no sense to the adults who watch.

It’s impossible to comprehend a teenager’s mind without understanding the role of power in his school life and at home.

Help your teen make it through the tough stages:

• Build his confidence.

• Prepare him for independence.

• Gradually transfer power.

• Prepare for the “empty nest.”

• Learn the fine art of “letting go.”

— Dr. James Dobson

This article was adapted from Complete Marriage and Family Home Reference Guide by Dr. James Dobson with the permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. Copyright 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved. International copyright secured.

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